雙語(yǔ)閱讀：為什么中國(guó)家庭不常說(shuō)“我愛(ài)你”

　　摘要:“I love you”可能是英語(yǔ)中三個(gè)詞組成的最重要的一句話了。它是認(rèn)真對(duì)待戀愛(ài)關(guān)系的標(biāo)志，它是兄弟姐妹、父母或孩子之間親密程度的象征，它也是流行歌曲副歌部分的常見(jiàn)內(nèi)容。

　　"I love you" might be one of the most important combinations of three words in the English language. It's the signal that a romantic relationship is serious, an indication of closeness for a sibling, parent, or child, and a constant refrain for pop songs.

　　In Mandarin, "I love you" translates as “我愛(ài)你” (Wo ai ni), but the way it's used in China might be a little different, and Chinese state media is wondering why.

　　“I love you”可能是英語(yǔ)中三個(gè)詞組成的最重要的一句話了。它是認(rèn)真對(duì)待戀愛(ài)關(guān)系的標(biāo)志，它是兄弟姐妹、父母或孩子之間親密程度的象征，它也是流行歌曲副歌部分的常見(jiàn)內(nèi)容。

為什么中國(guó)家庭不常說(shuō)“我愛(ài)你”

　　“I love you”用普通話說(shuō)是“我愛(ài)你”，但是這句話在中國(guó)的用法可能有點(diǎn)兒不同，中國(guó)的官方媒體也想知道原因。

　　The Global Times reports that two online videos showing children telling their parents "I love you" have gone viral in China. The first, filmed by an Anhui TV station, shows a number of college students telling their parents they love them. The response are mixed. "Are you drunk?" asked one parent. In another similar video, shot by a Shanxi TV station, a father responded even more bluntly — "I am going to a meeting, so cut the crap."

　　《環(huán)球時(shí)報(bào)》報(bào)道，有兩個(gè)記錄孩子告訴父母“我愛(ài)你”的視頻在中國(guó)火了起來(lái)。第一個(gè)視頻是由安徽衛(wèi)視錄制的，在視頻里一群大學(xué)生告訴父母自己愛(ài)他們。父母?jìng)兊姆磻?yīng)各不相同。“你喝醉了嗎?”一位父母問(wèn)。另一個(gè)類似的視頻是山西衛(wèi)視錄制的，一名父親的反應(yīng)就更不客氣了——“我要去開會(huì)去了，廢話少說(shuō)。”

　　Even the positive reactions make it clear that the words are expressed rarely: "I am so happy you called to say that, it is the happiest thing that happened to me in 2014," one parent answered.

　　即使是正面的回應(yīng)，父母清楚地表明這句話用的很少：“我很高興你打電話說(shuō)這句話，這是我2014年最開心的一件事了。” 有個(gè)家長(zhǎng)這樣回答。

　　Why don't Chinese families use those words? Theories revolve around the nature of Confucian teaching. "The parents' responses show that many Chinese are not good at expressing positive emotions," Xia Xueluan, a Sociologist from Peking University, told the Global Times. "They are used to educating children with negative language."

　　為什么中國(guó)家庭不說(shuō)這句話呢?普遍的觀點(diǎn)認(rèn)為是受到儒家思想的影響。“父母?jìng)兊姆磻?yīng)表明大部分的中國(guó)人不擅長(zhǎng)表達(dá)積極的情感，” 北京大學(xué)社會(huì)學(xué)家夏學(xué)鑾對(duì)《環(huán)球時(shí)報(bào)》的記者說(shuō)。“他們習(xí)慣用負(fù)面的語(yǔ)言來(lái)教育孩子。”

　　This isn't the first time that China has done some soul-searching about familial love — last year China Daily asked a cross-section of people if they said 'I love you' to their parents, spouses, and children. "I have never said 'I love you' to my family, and I don't think I will in the future," one 56-year-old told the paper. "Saying it aloud is embarrassing for me."

　　這不是中國(guó)第一次做關(guān)于親情方面的自省——去年《中國(guó)日?qǐng)?bào)》就各個(gè)階層的人進(jìn)行了采訪，詢問(wèn)他們是否對(duì)父母、愛(ài)人和孩子說(shuō)過(guò)“我愛(ài)你”。“我從來(lái)沒(méi)對(duì)我的家人說(shuō)過(guò)‘我愛(ài)你’，我覺(jué)得我以后也不會(huì)說(shuō)，”一名56歲的被采訪者回答《中國(guó)日?qǐng)?bào)》的記者。“把這句話說(shuō)出口，我會(huì)覺(jué)得很難為情的。”

　　Still, that doesn't mean that love can't be expressed. In a separate article, China Daily spoke to Zhao Mengmeng, a 31-year-old woman who said she had never told her father she loved him face-to-face ("I find it a bit odd"). Sometimes actions speak louder than words, however — Zhao gave her father, a photo album featuring photographs of them together on almost every one of her birthdays in June 2012. The pictures went viral online, being forwarded hundreds of thousands of times on Weibo.

　　然而這并不是說(shuō)愛(ài)就無(wú)法表達(dá)。在另一篇文章中，《中國(guó)日?qǐng)?bào)》采訪了31歲的趙萌萌，她說(shuō)她從來(lái)沒(méi)當(dāng)面對(duì)她爸爸說(shuō)過(guò)她愛(ài)他。(“我覺(jué)得那樣會(huì)怪怪的”)。但有時(shí)行動(dòng)勝于言辭——趙萌萌在2012年六月送給了她爸爸一個(gè)相冊(cè)，里面裝滿了他們兩人在她每年生日時(shí)的合影。照片在網(wǎng)上火了起來(lái)，在微博上被轉(zhuǎn)發(fā)了幾十萬(wàn)次。

　　"I didn't sleep the night I heard about it," her father told China Daily after the story attracted mainstream attention. "I have now memorized some of the comments on the collection of pictures."

　　“當(dāng)我知道時(shí)，我一晚上沒(méi)睡，” 在這件事受到了主流媒體的關(guān)注后，她爸爸這樣告訴《中國(guó)日?qǐng)?bào)》的記者。“現(xiàn)在我還能記起一些照片下面的評(píng)論。”