情感美文：他的愛(ài)是一時(shí)還是一世

　　摘要：當(dāng)你遇到那個(gè)“對(duì)的人”，你自然而然會(huì)知道的，對(duì)吧?這就是別人一直告訴我們的：某一天、某種場(chǎng)合，你總會(huì)遇到那個(gè)一拍即合的另一半，而你非常確信他就是你的靈魂伴侶。

　　When you meet the right guy, you’ll just know it, right? That’s what we’ve always been told. Somehow, some way, we’ll meet a guy, and it’ll just “click” for us. We’ll be completely sure we’ve found our soul mate.

　　If that were the case, wouldn’t finding a husband be really easy? Wouldn’t we be able to avoid heartbreak and bad relationships because we’d automatically know in our gut this guy was or wasn’t the one for us?

　　當(dāng)你遇到那個(gè)“對(duì)的人”，你自然而然會(huì)知道的，對(duì)吧?這就是別人一直告訴我們的：某一天、某種場(chǎng)合，你總會(huì)遇到那個(gè)一拍即合的另一半，而你非常確信他就是你的靈魂伴侶。

他的愛(ài)是一時(shí)還是一世

　　如果真是這樣，那么找到你的丈夫豈不是太容易了?如果我們憑直覺(jué)就能知道這個(gè)男人是不是適合自己，那豈不是可以避免分手的心碎和爛桃花的煩惱?

　　Sometimes, it’s not all so cut and dry. It’s very confusing to know if your boyfriend is going to be THE boyfriend. What if your feelings just haven’t gotten there yet? What if you dump this guy and end up regretting it?

　　有時(shí)，不是所有的戀愛(ài)都已成定局。你很難知道現(xiàn)在的男朋友是不是永遠(yuǎn)的男朋友。要是你們之間的感情不能走到最后怎么辦?要是你拋棄了本該是“對(duì)的人”的他，最后又后悔了怎么辦?

　　I’m here to help you figure it out, don’t you worry. Here are 17 distinct differences between a “For Now” and a “Forever.”

　　別擔(dān)心，我來(lái)幫你解決這個(gè)問(wèn)題。以下就是男朋友對(duì)你“愛(ài)一時(shí)”和“愛(ài)一世”之間的17點(diǎn)顯著差別。

　　1. A “For Now” gets drunk with you; a “Forever” takes you home when you get too drunk.

　　“愛(ài)一時(shí)”，他會(huì)和你一起酩酊大醉;“愛(ài)一世”，他會(huì)在你喝醉后帶你回家。

　　The kind of guy who’s going to be with you forever should be able to see you at your worst. A guy who’s only staying through tomorrow won’t even help you with yourhangover.

　　要永遠(yuǎn)和你在一起的人應(yīng)該能接受看到你最差的狀態(tài)，愛(ài)你一時(shí)的人甚至不會(huì)幫你解決宿醉問(wèn)題。

　　2. A “For Now,” you never feel truly comfortable with; a “Forever” makes you feel 100 percent like yourself.

　　“愛(ài)一時(shí)”：和他在一起你其實(shí)從沒(méi)感覺(jué)自在過(guò);“愛(ài)一世”：和他在一起你可以百分百做自己。

　　A man who’s the one for you doesn’t make you feel badly about farting or eating carbs, about cursing or about being over-the-top. He loves you just the way you are. A guy who’s only here for now will never get to that level with you, nor will he try to.

　　“愛(ài)一世”的男朋友不會(huì)在意你放屁、喝碳酸飲料、罵人或者說(shuō)大話(huà)，他愛(ài)的就是真實(shí)的你;“愛(ài)一時(shí)”的男朋友和你在一起永遠(yuǎn)不會(huì)達(dá)到這種境界，他甚至連嘗試都不愿意。

　　3. A “For Now” doesn’t even know your opinions; a “Forever” supports your dreams.

　　“愛(ài)一時(shí)”的男朋友甚至連你的想法都不知道;“愛(ài)一世”的男朋友支持你的夢(mèng)想。

　　A guy who’s going to be with you forever respects you for your differences and valuesbecause he respects you. A guy who’s just here for the time being argues with you about your differences until they tear you apart.

　　“愛(ài)一世”的男朋友尊重你們之間的差異和你的價(jià)值觀，因?yàn)樗鹬啬?“愛(ài)一時(shí)”的男朋友會(huì)因?yàn)榉制绺銧?zhēng)吵，直到你們因?yàn)榉制缍质帧?/p>

　　4. A “For Now” only takes you out; a “Forever” is OK with staying in.

　　“愛(ài)一時(shí)”的男朋友只會(huì)帶你出去;“愛(ài)一世”的男朋友愿意和你一起待在家里。

　　A man who’s going to be your “Forever” is fine with staying on the couch, enjoying your company. A guy who’s only semi-permanent wouldn’t know what to do with so few ritualactivities.

　　“愛(ài)一世”的男朋友愿意和你一起呆在沙發(fā)上，享受你的陪伴;而“愛(ài)一時(shí)”的他會(huì)因?yàn)闆](méi)太多事做而感到不知所措。

　　5. A “For Now” texts you goodnight; a “Forever” calls you to say good morning.

　　“愛(ài)一時(shí)”，他會(huì)發(fā)短信跟你說(shuō)晚安;“愛(ài)一世”，他會(huì)打電話(huà)跟你說(shuō)早安。

　　A man who wants to be in your life forever is the one who calls because he wants to hear your voice. A guy who’s here for now can barely be bothered with a text. You want to be with a man who thinks of you the minute he wakes up.

　　“愛(ài)一世”的男人會(huì)打電話(huà)，因?yàn)樗肼?tīng)見(jiàn)你的聲音;“愛(ài)一時(shí)”的男人連發(fā)短信都嫌麻煩。你會(huì)想和那個(gè)一醒了就想起你的人在一起的 。

　　6. A “For Now” fights over details; a “Forever” actually cares about the details.

　　“愛(ài)一時(shí)”因?yàn)樾∈戮秃湍銧?zhēng)吵;而“愛(ài)一世”在乎的就是那些小事。

　　A forever guy is one who wants to know the intimate details of your life and explore them with you. A for-now type of man is too busy being wrapped up in his own sh*t to care.

　　“愛(ài)一世”，他想知道并和你一起探索你生活中的細(xì)枝末節(jié);“愛(ài)一時(shí)”，他忙于自己的事根本沒(méi)時(shí)間關(guān)注你。

　　7. A “For Now” is a placeholder; a “Forever” has his place locked down.

　　“愛(ài)一時(shí)”的男朋友只是填補(bǔ)目前的空缺;“愛(ài)一世”的男朋友會(huì)鎖定他在你心里的位置。

　　When you find “The One,” there isn’t any doubt anymore. You have to trust yourself to love. The other guy is just someone to occupy your time until the latter comes along to take his place.

　　當(dāng)你找到“對(duì)的人”，就不會(huì)再有任何懷疑，你要相信自己的愛(ài);“愛(ài)一時(shí)”的男朋友只是填補(bǔ)你的空窗期，直到“對(duì)的人”出現(xiàn)接替他的位置。

　　8. A “For Now” plans the night; a “Forever” plans the rest of your life.

　　“愛(ài)一時(shí)”的男朋友只為你們的夜晚做準(zhǔn)備;“愛(ài)一世”的他計(jì)劃你們的未來(lái)。

　　Your future husband is busy planning the years ahead of you. Your temporary boyfriend can’t see or commit himself past Saturday evening.

　　你未來(lái)的丈夫忙于比你提前計(jì)劃你們的未來(lái)，而暫時(shí)的男朋友卻看不到自己和你過(guò)來(lái)周六夜晚會(huì)怎樣。

　　9. A “For Now” is replaceable; a “Forever” is certain.

　　“愛(ài)一時(shí)”的男朋友是可替代的;“愛(ài)一世”的男朋友只有一個(gè)。

　　When you find the man you could spend your life with, you know deep in your soul this is right. All of your boyfriends before, you’d always felt slightly uneasy about.

　　當(dāng)你遇到可以共度一生的男人時(shí)，你在心靈深處就知道這是對(duì)的;而在這之前的歷任男朋友，你都曾感覺(jué)多少有點(diǎn)不自在。