使你痛苦者必使你強(qiáng)大 雙語(yǔ)閱讀
摘要:一項(xiàng)研究中發(fā)現(xiàn),那些在生活中經(jīng)歷了一些困難人總體上表現(xiàn)得更加緊張和憂慮,但一些沒(méi)有經(jīng)歷困苦的人其實(shí)也一樣。
Small amounts of trauma can make us moreresilient, a new study has found
He said what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger –and it seems that philosopher Friedrich Nietzschewas right.
新的研究表明,少量的創(chuàng)傷能夠增強(qiáng)我們的心理復(fù)原能力
哲學(xué)家弗里德里希?尼采曾說(shuō)過(guò):沒(méi)有殺死你的只會(huì)讓你更強(qiáng)大---現(xiàn)在看來(lái)尼采是對(duì)的。
Scientists have found that although traumaticexperiences such as losing a loved one can bepsychologically damaging, small amounts oftrauma can make us more resilient.
科學(xué)家發(fā)現(xiàn),一些諸如失去愛(ài)人之類創(chuàng)傷性經(jīng)歷會(huì)給心理造成一定損害,少量的創(chuàng)傷反而能增強(qiáng)我們的心理復(fù)原能力。
使你痛苦者必使你強(qiáng)大
In one study, those who experienced many difficult life events were found to be moredistressed in general – but the same was true of some who had not faced any.
一項(xiàng)研究中發(fā)現(xiàn),那些在生活中經(jīng)歷了一些困難人總體上表現(xiàn)得更加緊張和憂慮,但一些沒(méi)有經(jīng)歷困苦的人其實(shí)也一樣。
Those who had experienced some difficulties were the best off.
那些經(jīng)歷過(guò)困苦的人通常健康狀況是最好的。
Other research revealed that people with chronic back pain were more mobile if they hadexperienced some serious adversity. Sufferers who had encountered either a lot or none at allwere more impaired.
其它研究也表明,在有著長(zhǎng)期性背部疼痛的人當(dāng)中,那些生活中經(jīng)歷了逆境的人行動(dòng)會(huì)更加靈活。 而那些沒(méi)有經(jīng)歷過(guò)很多或者根本沒(méi)有經(jīng)歷過(guò)逆境的患病者,會(huì)更容易受到不良影響。
Researcher Mark Seery, a psychologist at the University at Buffalo in the U.S., said: ‘A lot ofideas that seem like common sense aren’t supported by scientific evidence. ‘Indeed, a lot ofsolid psychology research shows that having miserable life experiences is bad for you.
研究者馬克?西里是美國(guó)布法羅大學(xué)的心理學(xué)家,他說(shuō):“許多觀點(diǎn)似乎都只是常識(shí),并沒(méi)有科學(xué)證據(jù)支持。確實(shí),有很多可靠的心理學(xué)研究表明痛苦的生活經(jīng)歷對(duì)一個(gè)人不利。”
Wise man: Friedrich Nietzsche, philosopher has been proven right
智者弗里德里奇?尼采,大哲學(xué)家被證明是正確的。
‘Serious events – like the death of a child or parent, a natural disaster, being physicallyattacked, experiencing sexual abuse, or being forcibly separated from your family – can causepsychological problems.
“一些嚴(yán)重的事件,比如孩子或父母亡故、自然災(zāi)害、人身攻擊、性侵害、或者是被迫與家庭分離,都可能會(huì)引起心理問(wèn)題”
‘In fact, some research has suggested that the best way to go through life is having nothingever happen to you. But not only is that unrealistic, it’s not necessarily healthy.’
“事實(shí)上,部分研究表明度過(guò)一生最好的方式就是什么壞事都不要在你身上發(fā)生。但這不僅不現(xiàn)實(shí),也未必健康。”
He suggested that those who go through difficult experiences are given a chance to develop anability to cope with such situations in the future.
他表示,那些生活中經(jīng)歷了逆境的人反而獲得了機(jī)會(huì)來(lái)鍛煉自己的能力,以在將來(lái)的生活中處理好類似情況。
‘The idea is that negative life experiences can toughen people, making them better able tomanage subsequent difficulties,’ he said.
“負(fù)面的生活經(jīng)歷能夠磨練人的意志,這種想法使他們能夠更好地去處理之后遇到的困難。”他說(shuō)。
Although he stressed that ‘negative events have negative effects’, Dr Seery added: ‘I reallylook at this as being a silver lining. Just because something bad has happened to someonedoesn’t mean they’re doomed to be damaged from that point on.’
雖然西里博士強(qiáng)調(diào)“不良的事件產(chǎn)生不良的影響”,他補(bǔ)充道:“其實(shí)把這看做是‘烏云背后的幸福線’。一些壞事發(fā)生在某人身上,這并不意味這他注定從此之后都是不完整的。”
His report on adversity and resilience appears in the latest issue of the journal CurrentDirections in Psychological Science.
他對(duì)于逆境和復(fù)原能力的報(bào)告被登在最近一期的《心理科學(xué)最新趨勢(shì)》上。
忍不了痛苦,就見(jiàn)不到幸福
1、Sometimes you have to be your own hero.
有時(shí)候必須自己做自己的英雄。
2、Everybody has problems. Everybody has bad times. Do we sacrifice all the good times because of them?
每個(gè)人都會(huì)有問(wèn)題,每個(gè)人都會(huì)有糟糕時(shí)刻。但要把所有美好時(shí)光,犧牲在糾結(jié)這些問(wèn)題上嘛?
3、He that can’t endure the bad, will not live to see the good.
忍不了痛苦,就見(jiàn)不到幸福。
4、In love folly is always sweet.
戀愛(ài)中,干傻事總是讓人感到十分美妙。
5、If we pass by in this crowd city one day , I’ll stop and stare at the leaving figure and tell myself that I have loved that person.
如果有一天,在喧鬧的城市里,我們擦肩而過(guò),我會(huì)停住腳步,凝視著那遠(yuǎn)去的背影,告訴自己那個(gè)人我曾經(jīng)愛(ài)過(guò)。
6、Imperfection is beauty. Madness is genius. And it’s better to be absolutely ridiculous than absolutely boring.
有瑕疵的卻是美的??此漂偪駞s是天才。寧愿變得徹底荒誕,也不接受徹底無(wú)聊。
7、How long is a minute? That depends on whether you’re sitting on the toilet, or waiting outside the bathroom!
一分鐘有多長(zhǎng)?那要看你是蹲在廁所里面還是等在廁所外面。
8、It is not flesh and blood but the heart which makes us fathers and sons.
父子不僅血肉至親,更是靈魂相依。
9、If you are not able to love freely, it is not real love.
如果你不能自由地愛(ài),那并不是真愛(ài)。
10、Appreciate what you have: the people, the opportunities and the material possessions.
珍視你所擁有的一切:人、機(jī)遇以及物質(zhì)財(cái)富。
11、George Bernard Shaw: A life spent making mistakes is not only more honorable, but more useful than a life spent doing nothing.
蕭伯納:一個(gè)嘗試錯(cuò)誤的人生,不但比無(wú)所事事的人生更榮耀,并且更有意義。
12、Things are always working out when you at least expected it.
事情總是在你最不抱希望的時(shí)候得到解決。
13、So scared of getting older. I’m only good at being young.
如此害怕長(zhǎng)大,因只擅長(zhǎng)打發(fā)年輕時(shí)光。
14、One thorn of experience is worth a whole wilderness of warning.
一次痛徹心扉的經(jīng)歷,抵得上千百次的告誡。
15、Einstein: Everyone is a genius. But if you judge a fish on its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid.
愛(ài)因斯坦:每個(gè)人都是天才。但如果硬要以魚兒爬樹的本領(lǐng),來(lái)評(píng)估它的能力,它這輩子都會(huì)覺(jué)得自己是條蠢魚。
16、Things will get worse before they get better. But when they do, remember who put you down, and who helped you up.
諸事在好起來(lái)之前,會(huì)變得更壞。經(jīng)歷這個(gè)過(guò)程后,請(qǐng)記住誰(shuí)把你拖下水,又是誰(shuí)把你拉上岸。
17、Look at the keyboard, U and I are together. Look underneath, it says JK.
看看鍵盤上,U鍵(你)和I鍵(我)是在一起的。再看看下面,卻是JK(just kidding)。唉!
18、《The Lion King》: I only brave when I have to be. Being brave doesn’t mean you go looking for trouble.
《獅子王》:我只是在必要的時(shí)候才會(huì)勇敢,勇敢并不代表你要到處闖禍。
19、《New Moon 》: Before you, my life was like a moonless night.
《新月》:在你出現(xiàn)之前,我的人生就像沒(méi)有月光的夜,異常黑暗。
20、If you want something, don’t wish for it. Life is too short to wait.
如果你想要某樣?xùn)|西,別等著有人會(huì)送給你。生命太短,等不得。