摘錄：如果你堅(jiān)持沉湎于過去，我建議你多想想你過去的成功?；貞涍^去的成功是重建信心和自尊的很好方式。你所想象的也就是你會最終成為的。因此，當(dāng)你集中精力思考成功時，你也正在創(chuàng)造將來的成功。

　　生活隨筆：學(xué)會釋懷 ，積極面對人生

　　Do you condemn yourself for things which you did--or failed to do--in the past? Everyone does this at some point. However, if you want to lead a successful and productive life, it is imperative that you release the past and not blame yourself for events which have already transpired and which cannot be changed.

　　The successful person takes this approach:

　　Learn from past mistakes and make adjustments in future behavior. The strategy of berating yourself for past conduct solves nothing and only serves to lower your self-esteem. You create a vicious cycle where negative experiences and negative feelings are reinforced, which leads to more negative outcomes and more negative feelings.

　　你是否為你曾經(jīng)做過的事，或失敗的事而對自己耿耿于懷?每個人都會在某種程度上有過這種經(jīng)歷。然而，如果你想要一種成功而積極的生活，學(xué)會釋懷過去，不要為已經(jīng)發(fā)生且無法改變的過去而責(zé)備自己，這一點(diǎn)是非常必要的。

　　大凡成功的人都會采取這種作法：

　　從過去的錯誤中吸取經(jīng)驗(yàn)教訓(xùn)，并為將來的行為作適當(dāng)?shù)恼{(diào)整。為過去的行為而責(zé)備自己的這種方式并不能解決任何問題，只能挫敗你的自尊心。你因此而制造了一個惡性循環(huán)，消積的經(jīng)歷和感受并再次被強(qiáng)化，同時導(dǎo)致了更多的惡性結(jié)果和消積的情感。

　　If you insist on dwelling in the past, I suggest that you focus on your past successes. Visualizing and thinking about past successes is an excellent way to build confidence and self-esteem. What you think about is what you become. Therefore, when you concentrate on your successes, you help to create future successes.

　　如果你堅(jiān)持沉湎于過去，我建議你多想想你過去的成功?；貞涍^去的成功是重建信心和自尊的很好方式。你所想象的也就是你會最終成為的。因此，當(dāng)你集中精力思考成功時，你也正在創(chuàng)造將來的成功。

　　When you find yourself starting to dwell on past negative experiences, immediately halt and remind yourself: "There is nothing I can do now which will change what happened. I learned a valuable lesson and will act in a more constructive manner next time."

　　當(dāng)你發(fā)現(xiàn)自己開始沉湎于過去的消積經(jīng)歷時，立即停止，并提醒自己：“我現(xiàn)在這么做并不能改變已經(jīng)發(fā)生了的過去。我從過去中收獲了寶貴的經(jīng)驗(yàn)，并將會以更積極地態(tài)度去面對人生。”

　　Regardless of what you have done--or failed to do--the only sane approach is to accept it and move forward.

　　不管你曾做過什么，有過何失敗，唯一理智的方式是接受你的過去，并積極前進(jìn)。