高考英語(yǔ)獻(xiàn)文:《覺醒》+Why we do what we do 安東尼·羅賓
高考英語(yǔ)獻(xiàn)文:《覺醒》+Why we do what we do 安東尼·羅賓
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Why we do what we do 安東尼·羅賓
Thank you. I have to tell you Im both challenged and excited. My excitement is: I get a chance to give something back. My challenge is: the shortest seminar I usually do is 50 hours.
Im not exaggerating. I do weekends -- I do more, obviously, I also coach people -- but Im into immersion, because how did you learn language? Not just by learning principles, you got in it and you did it so often that it became real.
The bottom line of why Im here, besides being a crazy mofo, is that -- Im not here to motivate you, you dont need that, obviously. Often thats what people think I do, and its the furthest thing from it. What happens, though, is people say to me, I dont need any motivation. But thats not what I do. Im the why guy. I want to know why you do what you do.
What is your motive for action? What is it that drives you in your life today? Not 10 years ago. Are you running the same pattern? Because I believe that the invisible force of internal drive, activated, is the most important thing. Im here because I believe emotion is the force of life. All of us here have great minds. Most of us here have great minds, right? We all know how to think. With our minds we can rationalize anything. We can make anything happen.
I agree with what was described a few days ago, that people work in their self-interest. But we know that thats bullshit at times. You dont work in your self-interest all the time, because when emotion comes into it, the wiring changes in the way it functions. So its wonderful to think intellectually about how the life of the world is, especially those who are very smart can play this game in our head. But I really want to know whats driving you.
What I would like to invite you to do by the end of this talk is explore where you are today, for two reasons. One: so that you can contribute more. And two: that hopefully we can not just understand other people more, but appreciate them more, and create the kinds of connections that can stop some of the challenges that we face today. Theyre only going to get magnified by the very technology that connects us, because its making us intersect. That intersection doesnt always create a view of everybody now understands everybody, and everybody appreciates everybody.
Ive had an obsession basically for 30 years, What makes the difference in the quality of peoples lives? What in their performance? I got hired to produce the result now. Ive done it for 30 years. I get the phone call when the athlete is burning down on national television, and they were ahead by five strokes and now they cant get back on the course. Ive got to do something right now or nothing matters. I get the phone call when the child is going to commit suicide, Ive got to do something. In 29 years, Im very grateful to tell you Ive never lost one. It doesnt mean I wont some day, but I havent yet. The reason is an understanding of these human needs.
When I get those calls about performance, thats one thing. How do you make a change? Im also looking to see what is shaping the persons ability to contribute, to do something beyond themselves. Maybe the real question is, I look at life and say theres two master lessons. One is: theres the science of achievement, which almost everyone here has mastered amazingly. How do you take the invisible and make it visible, How do you make your dreams happen? Your business, your contribution to society, money -- whatever, your body, your family.
The other lesson that is rarely mastered is the art of fulfillment. Because science is easy, right? We know the rules, you write the code and you get the results. Once you know the game, you just up the ante, dont you? But when it comes to fulfillment -- thats an art. The reason is, its about appreciation and contribution. You can only feel so much by yourself.
Ive had an interesting laboratory to try to answer the real question how somebodys life changes if you look at them like those people that youve given everything to? Like all the resources they say they need. You gave not a 100-dollar computer, but the best computer. You gave them love, joy, were there to comfort them. Those people very often -- you know some of them -- end up the rest of their life with all this love, education, money and background going in and out of rehab. Some people have been through ultimate pain, psychologically, sexually, spiritually, emotionally abused -- and not always, but often, they become some of the people that contribute the most to society.
The question weve got to ask ourselves really is, what is it? What is it that shapes us? We live in a therapy culture. Most of us dont do that, but the cultures a therapy culture, the mindset that we are our past. And you wouldnt be in this room if you bought that, but most of society thinks biography is destiny. The past equals the future. Of course it does if you live there. But what we know and what we have to remind ourselves -- because you can know something intellectually and then not use it, not apply it.
Weve got to remind ourselves that decision is the ultimate power. When you ask people, have you failed to achieve something significant in your life?
Say, Aye. Audience: Aye.
TR: Thanks for the interaction on a high level there. But if you ask people, why didnt you achieve something? Somebody whos working for you, or a partner, or even yourself. When you fail to achieve, whats the reason people say? What do they tell you? Didnt have the knowledge, didnt have the money, didnt have the time, didnt have the technology. I didnt have the right manager.
Al Gore: Supreme Court. TR: The Supreme Court.
What do all those, including the Supreme Court, have in common?
They are a claim to you missing resources, and they may be accurate. You may not have the money, or the Supreme Court, but that is not the defining factor.
And you correct me if Im wrong. The defining factor is never resources; its resourcefulness. And what I mean specifically, rather than just some phrase, is if you have emotion, human emotion, something that I experienced from you the day before yesterday at a level that is as profound as Ive ever experienced and I believe with that emotion you would have beat his ass and won.
Audience: Yeah!
How easy for me to tell him what he should do.
Idiot, Robbins. But I know when we watched the debate at that time, there were emotions that blocked peoples ability to get this mans intellect and capacity. And the way that it came across to some people on that day -- because I know people that wanted to vote in your direction and didnt, and I was upset. But there was emotion there. Do you know what Im talking about?
Say, Aye. Audience: Aye.
TR: So, emotion is it. And if we get the right emotion, we can get ourselves to do anything. If youre creative, playful, fun enough, can you get through to anybody, yes or no?
If you dont have the money, but youre creative and determined, you find the way. This is the ultimate resource. But this is not the story that people tell us. They tell us a bunch of different stories. They tell us we dont have the resources, but ultimately, if you take a look here, they say, what are all the reasons they havent accomplished that? Hes broken my pattern, that son-of-a-bitch.
But I appreciated the energy, Ill tell you that.
What determines your resources? Weve said decisions shape destiny, which is my focus here. If decisions shape destiny, what determines it is three decisions. What will you focus on? You have to decide what youre going to focus on. Consciously or unconsciously. the minute you decide to focus, you must give it a meaning, and that meaning produces emotion. Is this the end or the beginning? Is God punishing me or rewarding me, or is this the roll of the dice? An emotion creates what were going to do, or the action.
So, think about your own life, the decisions that have shaped your destiny. And that sounds really heavy, but in the last five or 10 years, have there been some decisions that if youd made a different decision, your life would be completely different? How many can think about it? Better or worse. Say, Aye.
Audience: Aye.
So the bottom line is, maybe it was where to go to work, and you met the love of your life there, a career decision. I know the Google geniuses I saw here -- I mean, I understand that their decision was to sell their technology. What if they made that decision versus to build their own culture? How would the world or their lives be different, their impact? The history of our world is these decisions. When a woman stands up and says, No, I wont go to the back of the bus. She didnt just affect her life. That decision shaped our culture. Or someone standing in front of a tank. Or being in a position like Lance Armstrong, Youve got testicular cancer. Thats pretty tough for any male, especially if you ride a bike.
Youve got it in your brain; youve got it in your lungs. But what was his decision of what to focus on? Different than most people. What did it mean? It wasnt the end; it was the beginning. He goes off and wins seven championships he never once won before the cancer, because he got emotional fitness, psychological strength. Thats the difference in human beings that Ive seen of the three million Ive been around.
In my lab, Ive had three million people from 80 countries over the last 29 years. And after a while, patterns become obvious. You see that South America and Africa may be connected in a certain way, right? Others say, Oh, that sounds ridiculous. Its simple. So, what shaped Lance? What shapes you? Two invisible forces. Very quickly. One: state. We all have had times, you did something, and after, you thought to yourself, I cant believe I said or did that, that was so stupid. Whos been there? Say, Aye. Audience: Aye.
Or after you did something, you go, That was me!
It wasnt your ability; it was your state. Your model of the world is what shapes you long term. Your model of the world is the filter. Thats whats shaping us. It makes people make decisions. To influence somebody, we need to know what already influences them. Its made up of three parts. First, whats your target? What are you after? Its not your desires. You can get your desires or goals. Who has ever got a goal or desire and thought, is this all there is?
Say, Aye. Audience: Aye.
Its needs we have. I believe there are six human needs. Second, once you know what the target thats driving you is and you uncover it for the truth -- you dont form it -- then you find out whats your map, whats the belief systems that tell you how to get those needs. Some people think the way to get them is to destroy the world, some people, to build, create something, love someone. Theres the fuel you pick. So very quickly, six needs.
Let me tell you what they are. First one: certainty. These are not goals or desires, these are universal. Everyone needs certainty they can avoid pain and at least be comfortable. Now, how do you get it? Control everybody? Develop a skill? Give up? Smoke a cigarette? And if you got totally certain, ironically, even though we need that -- youre not certain about your health, or your children, or money. If youre not sure the ceiling will hold up, you wont listen to any speaker. While we go for certainty differently, if we get total certainty, we get what? What do you feel if youre certain? You know what will happen, when and how it will happen, what would you feel? Bored out of your minds. So, God, in Her infinite wisdom, gave us a second human need, which is uncertainty. We need variety. We need surprise. How many of you here love surprises? Say, Aye.
Audience: Aye.
TR: Bullshit. You like the surprises you want. The ones you dont want, you call problems, but you need them. So, variety is important. Have you ever rented a video or a film that youve already seen? Whos done this? Get a fucking life.
Why are you doing it? Youre certain its good because you read or saw it before, but youre hoping its been long enough youve forgotten, and theres variety.
Third human need, critical: significance. We all need to feel important, special, unique. You can get it by making more money or being more spiritual. You can do it by getting yourself in a situation where you put more tattoos and earrings in places humans dont want to know. Whatever it takes. The fastest way to do this, if you have no background, no culture, no belief and resources or resourcefulness, is violence. If I put a gun to your head and I live in the hood, instantly Im significant. Zero to 10. How high? 10. How certain am I that youre going to respond to me? 10. How much uncertainty? Who knows whats going to happen next? Kind of exciting. Like climbing up into a cave and doing that stuff all the way down there. Total variety and uncertainty. And its significant, isnt it? So you want to risk your life for it. So thats why violence has always been around and will be around unless we have a consciousness change as a species. You can get significance a million ways, but to be significant, youve got to be unique and different.
Heres what we really need: connection and love, fourth need. We all want it; most settle for connection, loves too scary. Who here has been hurt in an intimate relationship? If you dont raise your hand, youve had other shit, too. And youre going to get hurt again. Arent you glad you came to this positive visit? Heres whats true: we need it. We can do it through intimacy, friendship, prayer, through walking in nature. If nothing else works for you, dont get a cat, get a dog, because if you leave for two minutes, its like youve been gone six months, when you come back 5 minutes later.
These first four needs, every human finds a way to meet. Even if you lie to yourself, you need to have split personalities. I call the first four needs the needs of the personality. The last two are the needs of the spirit. And this is where fulfillment comes. You wont get it from the first four. Youll figure a way, smoke, drink, do whatever, meet the first four. But number five, you must grow. We all know the answer. If you dont grow, youre what? If a relationship or business is not growing, if youre not growing, doesnt matter how much money or friends you have, how many love you, you feel like hell. And I believe the reason we grow is so we have something to give of value.
Because the sixth need is to contribute beyond ourselves. Because we all know, corny as that sounds, the secret to living is giving. We all know life is not about me, its about we. This culture knows that, this room knows that. Its exciting. When you see Nicholas talking about his 0 computer, the most exciting thing is: heres a genius, but hes got a calling now. You can feel the difference in him, and its beautiful. And that calling can touch other people.
My life was touched because when I was 11 years old, Thanksgiving, no money, no food, we were not going to starve, but my father was totally messed up, my mom was letting him know how bad he messed up, and somebody came to the door and delivered food. My father made three decisions, I know what they were, briefly. His focus was This is charity. What does it mean? Im worthless. What do I have to do? Leave my family, which he did. It was one of the most painful experiences of life. My three decisions gave me a different path. I set focus on Theres food. What a concept!
But this is what changed my life, shaped me as a human being. Somebodys gift, I dont even know who it is. My father always said, No one gives a shit. And now somebody I dont know, theyre not asking for anything, just giving us food, looking out for us. It made me believe this: that strangers care. And that made me decide, if strangers care about me and my family, I care about them. Im going to do something to make a difference. So when I was 17, I went out on Thanksgiving, it was my target for years to have enough money to feed two families. The most fun and moving thing I ever did in my life. Next year, I did four, then eight. I didnt tell anybody what I was doing, I wasnt doing it for brownie points. But after eight, I thought I could use some help.
So I went out, got my friends involved, then I grew companies, got 11, and I built the foundation. 18 years later, Im proud to tell you last year we fed 2 million people in 35 countries through our foundation. All during the holidays, Thanksgiving, Christmas, in different countries around the world.
Thank you. I dont tell you that to brag, but because Im proud of human beings because they get excited to contribute once theyve had the chance to experience it, not talk about it.
So, finally -- Im about out of time. The target that shapes you -- Heres whats different about people. We have the same needs. But are you a certainty freak, is that what you value most, or uncertainty? This man couldnt be a certainty freak if he climbed through those caves. Are you driven by significance or love? We all need all six, but what your lead system is tilts you in a different direction. And as you move in a direction, you have a destination or destiny. The second piece is the map. The operating system tells you how to get there, and some peoples map is, m going to save lives even if I die for other people, and theyre a fireman, and somebody else says, m going to kill people to do it. Theyre trying to meet the same needs of significance. They want to honor God or honor their family. But they have a different map.
And there are seven different beliefs; I cant go through them, because Im done. The last piece is emotion. One of the parts of the map is like time. Some peoples idea of a long time is 100 years. Somebody elses is three seconds, which is what I have. And the last one Ive already mentioned that fell to you. If youve got a target and a map -- I cant use Google because I love Macs, and they havent made it good for Macs yet. So if you use MapQuest -- how many have made this fatal mistake of using it? You use this thing and you dont get there. Imagine if your beliefs guarantee you can never get to where you want to go.
The last thing is emotion. Heres what Ill tell you about emotion. There are 6,000 emotions that we have words for in the English language, which is just a linguistic representation that changes by language. But if your dominant emotions -- If I have 20,000 people or 1,000 and I have them write down all the emotions that they experience in an average week, and I give them as long as they need, and on one side they write empowering emotions, the others disempowering, guess how many emotions they experience? Less than 12. And half of those make them feel like shit. They have six good feelings. Happy, happy, excited, oh shit, frustrated, frustrated, overwhelmed, depressed. How many of you know somebody who, no matter what happens, finds a way to get pissed off?
Or no matter what happens, they find a way to be happy or excited. How many of you know somebody like this?
When 9/11 happened, Ill finish with this, I was in Hawaii. I was with 2,000 people from 45 countries, we were translating four languages simultaneously for a program I was conducting, for a week. The night before was called Emotional Mastery. I got up, had no plan for this, and I said -- we had fireworks, I do crazy shit, fun stuff, and at the end, I stopped. I had this plan, but I never know what Im going to say. And all of a sudden, I said, When do people really start to live? When they face death. And I went through this whole thing about, if you werent going to get off this island, if nine days from now, you were going to die, who would you call, what would you say, what would you do? That night is when 9/11 happened.
One woman had come to the seminar, and when she came there, her previous boyfriend had been kidnapped and murdered. Her new boyfriend wanted to marry her, and she said no.
He said, If you go to that Hawaii thing, its over with us. She said, Its over. When I finished that night, she called him and left a message at the top of the World Trade Center where he worked, saying, I love you, I want you to know I want to marry you. It was stupid of me. She was asleep, because it was 3 a.m. for us, when he called her back, and said, Honey, I cant tell you what this means. I dont know how to tell you this, but you gave me the greatest gift, because Im going to die. And she played the recording for us in the room. She was on Larry King later. And he said, Youre probably wondering how on Earth this could happen to you twice. All I can say is this must be Gods message to you. From now on, every day, give your all, love your all. Dont let anything ever stop you. She finishes, and a man stands up, and he says, m from Pakistan, Im a Muslim. Id love to hold your hand and say Im sorry, but frankly, this is retribution. I cant tell you the rest, because Im out of time.
Are you sure?
10 seconds, I want to be respectful. All I can tell you is, I brought this man on stage with a man from New York who worked in the World Trade Center, because I had about 200 New Yorkers there. More than 50 lost their entire companies, friends, marking off their Palm Pilots. One financial trader, woman made of steel, bawling -- 30 friends crossing off that all died. And I said, What are we going to focus on? What does this mean and what are we going to do?
And I got the group to focus on: if you didnt lose somebody today, your focus is going to be how to serve somebody else. Then one woman stood up and was so angry, screaming and yelling. I found out she wasnt from New York, shes not an American, doesnt know anybody here. I asked, Do you always get angry? She said, Yes. Guilty people got guilty, sad people got sad. I took these two men and I did an indirect negotiation. Jewish man with family in the occupied territory, someone in New York who would have died if he was at work that day, and this man who wanted to be a terrorist, and I made it very clear. This integration is on a film, which Id be happy to send you, instead of my verbalization, but the two of them not only came together and changed their beliefs and models of the world, but worked together to bring, for almost four years now, through various mosques and synagogues, the idea of how to create peace. And he wrote a book, called My Jihad, My Way of Peace. So, transformation can happen.
My invitation to you is: explore your web, the web in here -- the needs, the beliefs, the emotions that are controlling you, for two reasons: so theres more of you to give, and achieve, too, but I mean give, because thats whats going to fill you up. And secondly, so you can appreciate -- not just understand, thats intellectual, thats the mind, but appreciate whats driving other people. Its the only way our worlds going to change.
God bless you, thank you. I hope this was of service.
(掌聲) 謝謝。 我必須告訴你們我同時(shí)感到挑戰(zhàn)與興奮。 讓我感到興奮的是,我有一個(gè)付出回饋的機(jī)會(huì)。 而我的挑戰(zhàn)在于,我最短的研討會(huì)一般也需要50個(gè)小時(shí) (而現(xiàn)在我只有18分鐘)。 (笑聲) 我并沒有夸大。我在周末辦研討會(huì),而我的做法是... 我不止辦研討會(huì),或指導(dǎo)他人... 我熱衷于沉浸式學(xué)習(xí)法。你們是怎么學(xué)會(huì)語(yǔ)言的? 你們并不只是通過(guò)學(xué)習(xí)原理就學(xué)會(huì)語(yǔ)言, 你們讓自己如此頻繁地沉浸其中,于是你們自然而然學(xué)會(huì)了使用語(yǔ)言。
而我會(huì)在這里的原因,除了因?yàn)槲沂且粋€(gè)瘋狂的家伙之外, 在于我處于這樣一個(gè)角色... 我不是來(lái)這里激勵(lì)你們的。你們顯然已不需要激勵(lì)。 時(shí)常人們以為我的工作就是激勵(lì)他人, 而我的工作和激勵(lì)他人相去甚遠(yuǎn)。然而, 人們會(huì)對(duì)我說(shuō):我不需要任何激勵(lì)。 我則回答:好,那很有趣。我的工作不是來(lái)激勵(lì)你。 我是那個(gè)問(wèn)為什么的人。我要知道你行為背后的為什么。
你行為的動(dòng)機(jī)是什么? 今天,而不是10年前,是什么在生命中驅(qū)動(dòng)著你? 你是否運(yùn)用著同樣的行為模式?因?yàn)槲蚁嘈牛?激發(fā)內(nèi)在驅(qū)動(dòng)的無(wú)形力量, 是世界上最重要的事。 我站在這里,因?yàn)槲蚁嘈徘榫w是生命的力量。 在座的各位,我們都有很棒的頭腦。 在這里,我們大部分的人都有很棒的頭腦,對(duì)吧? 我不清楚沒有頭腦的人,但我們有頭腦的人都知道怎么思考。 我們能夠把任何事物合理化。 我們能完成任何事情。我們能...我同意幾天前有人形容過(guò)的 人們?yōu)樽约旱睦嫠?qū)使的想法。
但我們也都知道有時(shí)候那是一派胡言。 你的行為并不是一直都受利益的驅(qū)使, 因?yàn)楫?dāng)我們加入情緒的因素, 我們追求利益的行為模式也會(huì)改變。 所以,用理智來(lái)思考這個(gè)世界的生活是怎樣的, 對(duì)我們而言是很奇妙的,特別是... 我們當(dāng)中那些十分聰明的人,能在心中玩這個(gè)游戲。 但我真的想知道的,是什么在驅(qū)動(dòng)著你。
我想要也許請(qǐng)你 在這個(gè)演講結(jié)束時(shí),探索今天你在生命中所處的位置。 這么做有兩個(gè)原因。一,你能做出更多貢獻(xiàn); 二,希望我們不但能更多地了解他人, 也許還能更多的去領(lǐng)會(huì)他們,并建立起那種情感聯(lián)系, 那種能阻止我們社會(huì)現(xiàn)今所面臨的挑戰(zhàn)(問(wèn)題) 的情感聯(lián)系。 將我們緊緊聯(lián)系的科技, 只會(huì)放大我們社會(huì)面對(duì)的那些挑戰(zhàn), 因?yàn)榭萍甲屛覀冇辛私患5欠N交集 并不總是帶來(lái) 現(xiàn)在所有人都互相了解,互相領(lǐng)會(huì) 的觀點(diǎn)。
所以30年來(lái),我一直深深專注于探討 是什么決定了人們的生活品質(zhì)? 是什么決定了人們表現(xiàn)的差異? 因?yàn)槟鞘俏业墓ぷ鳌?我必須馬上幫人們產(chǎn)生他們要的結(jié)果。 那就是我30年來(lái)的工作。比如說(shuō),我會(huì)接到一個(gè)電話 說(shuō)有個(gè)運(yùn)動(dòng)員在全國(guó)電視轉(zhuǎn)播的比賽中失去狀態(tài), 他的隊(duì)伍現(xiàn)在領(lǐng)先五分 但他的隊(duì)友們卻已無(wú)心回到場(chǎng)上繼續(xù)比賽。 而我必須馬上做些什么幫他們恢復(fù)狀態(tài) 對(duì)他們而言那是最重要的。或我會(huì)接到個(gè)電話 說(shuō)有個(gè)小孩要自殺 而我必須馬上做些什么來(lái)幫助他。29年來(lái)... 29年來(lái)我從未辜負(fù)過(guò)我的客戶,我為此心存感激。 這不表示說(shuō)未來(lái)我決不會(huì)失手。但至今我從未失手過(guò), 其原因在于我對(duì)人類需求的理解。我今天想要和你們談的就是這些人類需求。
當(dāng)我接到一個(gè)電話,要求改變某某人的表現(xiàn),這是一個(gè)方面。 你怎樣才能改變? 但同時(shí),我也會(huì)注意是什么塑造了 這個(gè)人貢獻(xiàn)的能力, 超越自己的能力。所以真正的問(wèn)題也許是, 你知道的,我發(fā)現(xiàn)人生中有兩個(gè)核心的課程。 第一個(gè)為成就的科學(xué) 人們?cè)趲缀跞魏畏矫?,把這門課程掌握到近乎完美的程度。 就好像你如何把無(wú)形的東西具體化?,對(duì)吧? 如何把你的夢(mèng)想變成現(xiàn)實(shí)? 不管是你的生意,你對(duì)社會(huì)的貢獻(xiàn),金錢... 你的身體,你的家庭,等等。
但人生中的另一個(gè)課程卻很少被人們掌握,那就是滿足的藝術(shù) 因?yàn)榭茖W(xué)比較容易,對(duì)嗎? 我們知道了規(guī)則。你編寫程序,你遵循公式, 然后你就能得到結(jié)果。就好比,一旦你知道了游戲的玩法, 你就有把握進(jìn)一步提高賭注,對(duì)吧? 可是滿足卻是一門藝術(shù)。 因?yàn)闈M足同感激和貢獻(xiàn)相關(guān)聯(lián)。 你一個(gè)人能給自己帶來(lái)的滿足感是有限的。 為此我辦了個(gè)有趣的實(shí)驗(yàn)室嘗試回答這個(gè)問(wèn)題 問(wèn)題中真正的問(wèn)題。那就是: 如果你看待某人好比你已為他付出一切,他的生命會(huì)有什么不同? 比如說(shuō)你給了他說(shuō)他需要的一切資源。 你給他的不是普通100美元的電腦 而是最好的電腦。你給了他你的愛 你給他帶來(lái)歡樂。你總是能夠在他需要你的時(shí)候給他安慰。 而常常這些人...我相信你一定認(rèn)識(shí)一些這樣的人... 盡管有了這些愛、教育、金錢、 和良好背景,卻荒廢生命,時(shí)常進(jìn)出戒毒所。 然后你見到那些遭受過(guò)極大痛苦的人... 那些在心理、性、精神和情感上遭受虐待的人... 雖然不總是如此,但常常,這些人會(huì)成為那些 對(duì)社會(huì)付出最多貢獻(xiàn)的人。
所以,我們真正需要自問(wèn)的是,究竟是什么? 是什么塑造了我們?我們生活在一個(gè)心理治療當(dāng)?shù)赖奈幕小?我們大多數(shù)人并沒有接受心理治療,但我們的文化是一個(gè)推崇心理治療的文化。 我指的是那種我們就是我們的過(guò)去的思想傾向。 在座的每位...如果你相信這種理論 你就不會(huì)坐在這里... 但我們社會(huì)中的大部分人認(rèn)為經(jīng)歷就是命運(yùn)。 過(guò)去等于未來(lái)。當(dāng)然,如果你活在過(guò)去,它就會(huì)是你的未來(lái)。 但在座的各位都知道, 我們必須提醒自己的是... 你可以通過(guò)理智了解一樣?xùn)|西,你能知道什么是該做的事 然而卻不去應(yīng)用它,不付諸行動(dòng)。
所以我們真的要提醒我們自己 決定是終極的力量。這是決定一詞真正的意義。 當(dāng)你問(wèn)人, 你是否曾經(jīng)失敗過(guò)? 你們有誰(shuí)曾經(jīng)在生命中遭遇過(guò) 重大失敗的?說(shuō)明白
觀眾:明白
羅賓:謝謝你們熱烈的反應(yīng)。 (笑聲)
當(dāng)你問(wèn)某人,為什么你無(wú)法達(dá)成某事? 比如說(shuō)你的員工,或生意伙伴, 甚至你自己本人。當(dāng)你無(wú)法達(dá)成一個(gè)目標(biāo), 人們給失敗提供的理由是什么? 他們會(huì)告訴你什么?他們沒有...他們懂的不夠多, 沒有...知識(shí)。沒有...錢。 沒有...時(shí)間。沒有...技術(shù)。你也聽過(guò)的, 我沒有合適的經(jīng)理。沒有...
阿爾.戈?duì)枺鹤罡叻ㄔ骸?笑聲)
那... (掌聲) 那... (掌聲) ...所有這些回答,包括最高法院,有什么共同之處? (笑聲) 它們都是對(duì)你所缺少的資源的索求,而且它們可能是對(duì)的 你可能沒有錢,你可能沒有最高法院 但那不是決定性因素。 (笑聲,掌聲) 如果我說(shuō)錯(cuò)的話,糾正我。 決定性因素從來(lái)都不是資源,而是策略。 我具體指的是, 如果你運(yùn)用了情緒,人性化的情緒,就在前天 如果你讓我感受到那種最深層次的情緒, 如果你運(yùn)用那種情緒來(lái)和選民溝通, 我相信你一定能狠狠把他(指戈?duì)柕母?jìng)選對(duì)手布什)打敗。 (掌聲)
但是,要我告訴他他該做什么是多么容易。 (笑聲) 白癡,羅賓。對(duì),我知道當(dāng)我們?cè)谟^看那場(chǎng)辯論時(shí), 有些情感妨礙了人們對(duì) 這個(gè)人的智力與才能的理解。 那一天你給一些人帶來(lái)的感覺... 因?yàn)槲艺J(rèn)識(shí)原本要投票給你最終卻沒有的人, 那讓我心煩。但事實(shí)就是那樣...情緒發(fā)生了作用。 誰(shuí)知道我在說(shuō)什么的?說(shuō)明白
觀眾:明白
羅賓:對(duì),就是情緒。如果我們處于對(duì)的情緒狀態(tài), 我們能讓自己做任何事。我們能完成任何事。 如果你夠創(chuàng)意,夠幽默,夠有趣, 你能否和任何人溝通?能,還是不能?
觀眾:能
羅賓:如果你沒有錢,但你有足夠的創(chuàng)意和決心, 你會(huì)找到方法。這就是終極的資源。 但這不是人們告訴我們的故事,對(duì)嗎? 人們告訴我們的是一大堆不同的故事。 他們告訴我們說(shuō)我們沒有資源,但最終, 如果你看一下這邊...麻煩下一張... 他們說(shuō),讓他們無(wú)法完成目標(biāo)的理由是什么? 下一張幻燈片。他搗亂了我的公式,那個(gè)混蛋。 (笑聲) 但我告訴你,我欣賞那種能量。 (笑聲)
什么左右了你的資源?我們剛說(shuō)決定塑造命運(yùn), 這是我要在這里強(qiáng)調(diào)的,如果決定塑造命運(yùn),左右我們資源的則是 三個(gè)決定。你要把注意力放在什么地方? 現(xiàn)在,你必須決定你要把注意力放在什么地方。 在這一秒,無(wú)論有意識(shí)或無(wú)意識(shí)地,當(dāng)你決定 把注意力放在某樣?xùn)|西上面,你必須賦予這樣?xùn)|西一個(gè)意義。 這個(gè)意義,無(wú)論它是什么,會(huì)制造情緒。 這是結(jié)束還是開始?老天是在懲罰我 還是在獎(jiǎng)勵(lì)我?或者這不過(guò)是偶然? 然后,情緒創(chuàng)造我們的下一步行動(dòng)。
想想你自己的人生。 那些塑造了你的命運(yùn)的決定。 那聽起來(lái)很沉重,但過(guò)去的5或10年, 或15年里,有哪些事情是 如果當(dāng)初你做了一個(gè)不同的決定, 你的生命將完全的不同?你能想到多少個(gè)這樣的決定? 老實(shí)說(shuō),不管好壞,如果你能記起這樣的決定,說(shuō)明白。
觀眾:明白。
羅賓:歸根結(jié)底,也許這是要到哪里工作的決定, 結(jié)果你在那里遇到了你的人生伴侶。 也許那是一個(gè)事業(yè)的抉擇。我知道那兩位創(chuàng)建谷歌的天才... 我是說(shuō),我知道他們剛開始的決定是 要把他們的技術(shù)出售。想象如果他們真的決定出售技術(shù) 而不是創(chuàng)建他們自己的文化,會(huì)怎么樣?世界會(huì)是怎樣的不同? 他們的人生會(huì)是怎樣的不同?他們對(duì)世界的影響會(huì)有什么不同? 我們世界的歷史其實(shí)就是這些決定。 當(dāng)一個(gè)女人站起來(lái)說(shuō)不,我不會(huì)退到公車后座 她不只影響了她的人生。那個(gè)決定塑造了我們的文化。 或當(dāng)一個(gè)人擋在坦克前?;虍?dāng)一個(gè)人處于像阿姆斯特朗(Lance Armstrong)這樣的處境 人家告訴你:你得了睪丸癌。 這對(duì)任何男人都是不小的打擊, 特別當(dāng)你是個(gè)騎單車的運(yùn)動(dòng)員。 (笑聲) 在你的腦海中,在你的心中,你已明白這意味著什么。 但他決定了把注意力集中在什么? 和大多數(shù)人都不同。什么意思? 這不是結(jié)束,這是開始。我要做什么? 他開始捧回七個(gè)大賽冠軍;患癌之前他一次都沒有贏過(guò), 因?yàn)樗邆淞私】档那榫w與頑強(qiáng)的心態(tài)。 那就是人與人之間的差別。 在我接觸過(guò)的三百萬(wàn)人中,我見到那種差別。
那和我的實(shí)驗(yàn)室有關(guān)。在過(guò)去的29年里 我有機(jī)會(huì)和三百萬(wàn)來(lái)自80個(gè)不同國(guó)家的人們交流。 經(jīng)過(guò)一段時(shí)間,一些模式變得明顯。 你會(huì)發(fā)現(xiàn)南美洲和非洲 可能以某種方式相互有所聯(lián)系,對(duì)嗎?其他人說(shuō), 哦,那聽起來(lái)很荒謬 這很簡(jiǎn)單。什么塑造了阿姆斯特朗? 什么塑造了你?兩個(gè)看不見的力量。第一個(gè):狀態(tài)。 我們都有過(guò)這樣的經(jīng)驗(yàn)。 如果你有過(guò)這樣的經(jīng)歷,當(dāng)你做了一件事 你對(duì)自己說(shuō),我不敢相信我竟然說(shuō)了那些東西 我竟然做了那種事,真是愚蠢...誰(shuí)有這樣的經(jīng)歷?
《覺醒》沒動(dòng)力的時(shí)候就看看
Most of us, go through life pretending, that we dont have any special goals or ambitions or desires, when really down inside we do really want more. We block ourselves, and we use this words almost like we where in a trans.
我們大多數(shù)人一輩子都在假裝,假裝自己沒有什么追求和野心。而在我們的內(nèi)心深處,誰(shuí)不想得到更多呢?可是我們會(huì)刻意地不去想這些,因?yàn)橛X得夢(mèng)想與現(xiàn)實(shí)相去甚遠(yuǎn)。
Like we sleepwalking through life.
That we find ways to cancel our dreams,
A lot of things we want do
a lot of places we would like to go
a lot of things we would like to experience
and we just stop at but
but will cause you to hide out behind fear
but will cause you to come out with all type of excuses
that you can validate your in action
and not acting on your dream
然后行尸走肉一般過(guò)此一生
不知不覺間泯滅所有念想
很多我們想做的事情
許多我們想去的地方
很多我們想擁有的經(jīng)歷和體驗(yàn)
我們都會(huì)在但是面前打消念頭
但是只會(huì)讓我們逃離恐懼
但是只會(huì)讓你編造各種借口
讓你不去行動(dòng),不去追求你的夢(mèng)想
But is a dream killer
But most people, you know what they do?
Most people go through life quietly and safely tiptoeing to the early grave.
但是足以扼殺人的夢(mèng)想
你知道大多數(shù)人是怎么做的嗎?
他們一輩子過(guò)得安逸平常
悄無(wú)聲息地過(guò)早死去
Weve been holding back,we have ideas that we dont act on. Things we want do, we afraid to take a chances.A lot of people say No to things that they dont even know what they are saying No to. Dont allow but to keep you in the corner. There are a lot of people, who say:
But I tried once or twiceand it didnt work out.
我們都被消磨了志氣,空有想法卻不付諸行動(dòng)。想做事情,卻又不敢冒風(fēng)險(xiǎn),大多數(shù)人習(xí)慣了拒絕。雖然他們都不知道自己拒絕的是什么,不要因?yàn)榈亲屇憧`手縛腳。很多人會(huì)說(shuō),但是我試過(guò)一次或者兩次了啊,結(jié)果就是不行。
And so they use that as an excuse
not to ever come out again.
Even if things dont work out, even if I experienced to feel a failure
that doesnt make me a failure
Its a difference between falling and being failure
If things dont work out, if you dont produce the result that you want, thats all.
But DONT CONFUSE WHO YOU ARE with THE RESULT THAT YOU PRODUCE.
Do what you can, where you are with what you have and never be satisfied.
Dont get satisfied with yourself!
于是他們就把這當(dāng)作理由
不再做任何新的嘗試
即便事情沒做成
即便我經(jīng)歷了一次失敗
但我并不能算失敗者啊
失敗和成為失敗者絕對(duì)是兩碼事
如果事情沒做成功
你沒有達(dá)成自己想要的結(jié)果
這是事實(shí)
但是,你做事失敗不等于你做人失敗
你要盡你所能,全心全力去做
永遠(yuǎn)不要滿足于現(xiàn)狀
不要滿足于眼前此刻的你!
Always know, that wherever you are you can enjoy more, that you deserve more.
Why dont you decide now, that you going to expand your world,
that if other people can learn, you can learn to.
If you are working on your dream,
sure there will be times you want to give up,
sure there will be times that life will knock you down and kept you on the blind side.
But the challenge is to hold on.
And if you hold on tenaciously I said that universe is on your side.
See, If you dont decide to act on your dream,
if you dont decide to make a decision to live your life,
if you dont decide to step into your fears,
if you dont decide to say Yes to your life
It will never work for you.
你要永遠(yuǎn)保持清醒的自我認(rèn)知
你可以獲得更多,而且理當(dāng)如此
不要遲疑,現(xiàn)在就做出決定
你要拓展你的生活視野
只要其他人學(xué)得會(huì),你也可以
當(dāng)你在追求和實(shí)現(xiàn)夢(mèng)想的時(shí)候
你自然會(huì)遇到讓你想放棄的情況
生活自然會(huì)打壓你、折磨你
讓你過(guò)得不如意、不順利
你面臨的挑戰(zhàn)就是堅(jiān)持和忍耐
只要你能夠頑強(qiáng)地堅(jiān)持下去
我敢說(shuō),整個(gè)宇宙都會(huì)支持你
你明白了嗎?
如果你不去追求你的夢(mèng)想
如果你不打算過(guò)自己想要的生活
如果你不去面對(duì)和征服你的恐懼
如果你對(duì)自己的人生不抱有信心
那么你永遠(yuǎn)不會(huì)成功!
You gotta live whats in you!
Life is just too short and unpredictable.
But what are we saying,
but there always be tomorrow oh no.
There is no guarantee, that you gonna show up tomorrow.
Always something there
To build a case, why you cant move on,
why you cant go to the next level, why you cant begin to manifest your greatness.
Why you cant begin to live life on your terms.
你要活出你內(nèi)心的自由!
人的一生短暫而不可預(yù)知
不過(guò)我們總是喜歡說(shuō)
今天不行還有明天
哦,不!
因?yàn)槟銢]法為你的明天做出保證
生活總是充滿變數(shù)
不妨想想
為什么你就不能繼續(xù)前進(jìn)
為什么你沒法進(jìn)入更高的水平
為什么你不發(fā)揮你的卓越潛力
為什么不去過(guò)自己想過(guò)的生活
Thats you gonna say Its not worth it,
Yes, thats gonna be right there for you!
Its gonna be on your face, telling you to go back!
So if you want do something, if you thought about something you want to do,
take head-on.
And life will never be the same again.
LIVE YOUR DREAM!
這時(shí)候你會(huì)說(shuō),我這樣太不值了
沒錯(cuò),你要追求你真正的價(jià)值
你的人生道路就在你的面前
告訴你回到原點(diǎn)
所以,如果你想做點(diǎn)什么,如果你考慮做什么事情
那就去做吧!
從此你的人生將徹底改變
成就你的夢(mèng)想!!
Is it possible for you to have all your dreams become a reality in your life time?
Yes, it is possible!
But real question should be , ask yourself :
Have you made the decision?
用一輩子的時(shí)間來(lái)實(shí)現(xiàn)你所有的人生夢(mèng)想,夠嗎?
是的,足夠了
不過(guò)你要認(rèn)真去反省,問(wèn)問(wèn)你自己:
你真的決定了嗎?