英語(yǔ)文摘如何應(yīng)對(duì)身邊負(fù)能量爆棚的人
負(fù)能量無(wú)處不在，有些人隨時(shí)都在抱怨。結(jié)果很可能被這些負(fù)能量影響，那么如何擊破呢?接下來(lái)，小編給大家準(zhǔn)備了英語(yǔ)文摘如何應(yīng)對(duì)身邊負(fù)能量爆棚的人,歡迎大家參考與借鑒。
英語(yǔ)文摘如何應(yīng)對(duì)身邊負(fù)能量爆棚的人
Do you have any friends or colleagues who are negative? If so, you’ll know they aren’t the most enjoyable people to be around. Negative people can be real downers in any conversation. No matter what you say, they have a way of spinning things in a negative direction. Some negative people can be so negative that it feels draining just being around them.
I’ve dealt with a fair share of negative people in my life. When I was in junior college, I was basically surrounded by a college population of negative students and teachers. My school wasn’t the best of the lot, so most people inside were disgruntled by virtue of being there. While I was initially taken aback by negativity of the people, I eventually learned to manage it and channel it into conscious action.
Today, I deal with negativity on-and-off in my personal development work, especially if there are readers or coaching clients in distress. Rather than be affected by others’ negative energy, I’m now able to consciously deal with it. Here, I’ll share with you 9 tips to deal with negative people in your life:
1) Don’t get into an argument
One of the most important things I learned is not to debate with a negative person. A negative person likely has very staunch views and isn’t going to change that just because of what you said. Whatever you say, he/she can find 10 different reasons to back up his/her viewpoint. The discussion will just swirl into more negativity, and you pull yourself down in the process. You can give constructive comments, and if the person rebutts with no signs of backing down, don’t engage further.
2) Empathize with them
Have you ever been annoyed by something before, then have someone tell you to “relax”? How did you feel? Did you relax as the person suggested or did you feel even more worked up?
From my experience, people who are negative (or upset for that matter) benefit more from an empathetic ear than suggestions/solutions on what he/she should do. By helping them to address their emotions, the solutions will automatically come to them (it’s always been inside them anyway).
3) Lend a helping hand
Some people complain as a way of crying for help. They may not be conscious of it though, so their comments come across as complaints rather than requests. Take the onus to lend a helping hand. Just a simple “Are you okay?” or “Is there anything I can do to help you?” can do wonders.
4) Stick to light topics
Some negative people are triggered by certain topics. Take for example: One of my friends sinks into a self-victimizing mode whenever we talk about his work. No matter what I say (or don’t say), he’ll keep complaining once we talk about work.
Our 1st instinct with negative people should be to help bring them to a more positive place (i.e. steps #2 and #3). But if it’s apparent the person is stuck in his/her negativity, the unhappiness may be too deeply rooted to address in a one-off conversation, or for you to help him/her unravel it. Bring in a new topic to lighten the mood. Simple things like new movies, daily occurrences, common friends, make for light conversation. Keep it to areas the person feels positive towards.
5) Ignore the negative comments
One way to help the negative person “get it” is to ignore the negative comments. If he/she goes into a negative swirl, ignore or give a simple “I see” or “Ok” reply. On the other hand, when he/she is being positive, reply in affirmation and enthusiasm. Do this often and soon he/she will know positivity pays off. He/she will adjust to be more positive accordingly.
6) Praise the person for the positive things
Negative people aren’t just negative to others. They’re also negative to themselves. If you already feel negative around them, imagine how they must feel all the time. What are the things the person is good at? What do you like about the person? Recognize the positive things and praise him/her for it. He/she will be surprised at first and might reject the compliment, but on the inside he/she will feel positive about it. That’s the first seed of positivity you’re planting in him/her and it’ll bloom in the long-term.
7) Hang out in 3′s or more people
Having someone else in the conversation works wonders in easing the load. In a 1-1 communication, all the negativity will be directed towards you. With someone else in the conversation, you don’t have to bear the full brunt of the negativity. This way you can focus more on doing steps #1 (Empathizing) and #2 (Helping the person).
8) Be responsible for your reaction
Whether the person is negative or not, ultimately you’re the one who is perceiving the person is negative. When you recognize that, actually the negativity is the product of your lens. Take responsibility for your perceptions. For every trait, you can interpret it in a positive and a negative manner. Learn to see the goodness of the person than the negative. It may be tough initially, but once you cultivate the skill, it becomes second nature.
9) Reduce contact with them / Avoid them
If all else fails, reduce contact with them or avoid them altogether. If it’s a good friend, let him/her know of the severity of the issue and work it out where possible. It’s not healthy to spend too much time with people who drain you. Your time is precious, so spend it with people who have positive effects on you.
擴(kuò)展：各種不同類型的音樂(lè)
RAP FIELD 說(shuō)唱音樂(lè)
說(shuō)唱這種音樂(lè)形式最早的起源應(yīng)該是來(lái)自西非的部族史說(shuō)唱藝人(griot)，他們用鼓和簡(jiǎn)單的樂(lè)譜伴奏，用一種有節(jié)奏的方式來(lái)講故事。可能跟藏族的《格薩爾王傳》說(shuō)唱類似。不過(guò)，一直到20世紀(jì)70年代初，rap才作為音樂(lè)演唱形式首次出現(xiàn)在唱片中。用這種音樂(lè)形式表演的藝人就叫rapper。在其發(fā)展的過(guò)程中，rapper的表演也受到誦讀(spoken word)、爵士詩(shī)歌(jazz poetry)以及喜劇表演(comedy records)的影響。
Alternative Rap 另類說(shuō)唱
Bounce 彈跳音樂(lè)
Hardcore Rap 硬核說(shuō)唱
Hip-Hop 嘻哈
Latin Rap 拉丁說(shuō)唱
Old School Rap 老派說(shuō)唱
Rap 說(shuō)唱
Underground Rap 地下說(shuō)唱
COUNTRY FIELD 鄉(xiāng)村音樂(lè)
Alternative Country 另類鄉(xiāng)村
Americana 美式鄉(xiāng)村
Bluegrass 藍(lán)草音樂(lè)(美國(guó)傳統(tǒng)鄉(xiāng)村音樂(lè)，用吉他和班卓琴演奏)
Contemporary Country 當(dāng)代鄉(xiāng)村
Country Gospel 鄉(xiāng)村福音
Country Pop 鄉(xiāng)村流行
Honky Tonk 酒館音樂(lè)
Outlaw1 Country 叛道鄉(xiāng)村
Traditional Country 傳統(tǒng)鄉(xiāng)村
Urban Cowboy 城市牛仔
NEW AGE FIELD 新世紀(jì)音樂(lè)
Healing 療愈
Meditation2 冥想
Nature 自然
Relaxation3 放松
Travel 旅途
JAZZ FIELD 爵士音樂(lè)
爵士樂(lè)于19世紀(jì)末、20世紀(jì)初誕生于美國(guó)的南部城市新奧爾良。主要特點(diǎn)：極具動(dòng)感的切分節(jié)奏、個(gè)性十足的爵士音階和不失章法的即興演奏(或演唱)
Acid Jazz 酸性爵士
Avant-Garde Jazz 前衛(wèi)爵士
Contemporary Jazz 當(dāng)代爵士
Cool 冷爵士
Crossover Jazz 跨界爵士
Fusion 融合爵士
Latin Jazz 拉丁爵士
Mainstream Jazz 主流爵士
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