讓自己更有動(dòng)力的方法
設(shè)定了目標(biāo)，卻總是管不住自己、行動(dòng)不了?其實(shí)關(guān)鍵不是管住自己，而是要兌現(xiàn)自己和目標(biāo)之間的承諾。接下來(lái)，小編給大家準(zhǔn)備了讓自己更有動(dòng)力的方法,歡迎大家參考與借鑒。
讓自己更有動(dòng)力的方法
By Dr. Annette Colby, RD, the Official Guide To Energy Healing
It happens to all of us at some stage - you want to achieve change in your life, but just cannot motivate yourself to do it. You really want to reach success, lose weight, or eat differently, but just do not have the push or willingness to take action. Every time you think about getting started on your desire to change, something more important comes up, like washing the dog or running your mom's errands. 我們每個(gè)人在某個(gè)階段都會(huì)發(fā)現(xiàn)自己想改變生活，但是卻找不到動(dòng)力。你很希望成功、希望減肥、或改變飲食，可就是沒(méi)有采取行動(dòng)的動(dòng)力或積極性。 每次當(dāng)想要改變時(shí)，就會(huì)有更重要的事情出現(xiàn)，比如給狗洗澡或給母親跑腿。
The good news is that every person, including you, has the amazing potential to turn his or her desires into reality. You can achieve your dreams! However, to do so, you have to know how. It is easy to reach a high level of motivation once you know the few important areas to focus on. To increase your motivation, follow the simple steps outlined below: 好消息是包括你在內(nèi)的每個(gè)人都有將愿望實(shí)現(xiàn)的驚人潛力。你是能夠?qū)崿F(xiàn)夢(mèng)想的!不過(guò)，你必須知道如何來(lái)實(shí)現(xiàn)。 一旦你知道了幾個(gè)需要關(guān)注的方面，那么獲得動(dòng)力就是很容易的事情。要提高動(dòng)力，可以按以下方法來(lái)做：
1. Motivation and Goal Setting
動(dòng)力和目標(biāo)設(shè)定
When it comes to living a healthy and confident life, real goal achievement involves much more than good intentions. For example, it is not enough to know you want to eat differently or that you want to lose weight. Motivation can be defined as an impulse to channel energy and action toward a specific goal. This means, 1) you have to know what you want and be passionate1 about it, and, 2) you have to know how to set a goal. Goal setting is a powerful skill to learn because you give yourself a specific direction and you give your energy a precise focus. 要過(guò)上健康自信的生活，僅有好的意愿是不行的。例如，光知道你想改變飲食或減肥是不夠的。所謂動(dòng)力就是引導(dǎo)你為一個(gè)目標(biāo)投入精力和行動(dòng)的沖動(dòng)。這就是說(shuō)，1)你得知道自己想要什么，并對(duì)此有激情;2)你得知道如何設(shè)定目標(biāo)。設(shè)定目標(biāo)是一種需要學(xué)習(xí)的重要技巧，因?yàn)槟愕媒o自己一個(gè)明確的方向，為你的精力找一個(gè)精確的焦點(diǎn)。
2. Manage Agreements
管理“協(xié)定”
In business management circles, there is a saying that you cannot manage people you can only manage agreements. Indeed, great leaders are compassionate1 and attempt to understand the feelings of their employees, but they do not try to manage other people's emotions and personalities2. Instead, great leaders get great results from their people by managing agreements. This is also true for self-motivation. Learn to make adult, respectful decisions about the direction you are moving toward. Make specific agreements about your responsibility and commitment to precise actions. Then ask yourself, "Can I count on myself to follow through with this commitment, with 100-percent compliance3? Can I count on myself for that?" If the answer is "Yes" then you have an agreement. Now, as you move forward and encounter inner resistance or emotional obstacles, you can manage your agreements without becoming trapped in sticky emotions. Agreements maintain motivation and action. 企業(yè)管理界中有一個(gè)說(shuō)法：你管不了人，只能管理協(xié)定。的確，偉大的領(lǐng)導(dǎo)有親和力，想要了解員工的感受，可是他們不會(huì)去管理人們的情緒和個(gè)性。相反，他們通過(guò)管理協(xié)定來(lái)從手下那里獲得極好的結(jié)果。對(duì)于自我激勵(lì)來(lái)說(shuō)也是一樣。學(xué)會(huì)就你前進(jìn)的方向做出成熟的、尊重自己的決定。對(duì)每一個(gè)行為都制定出責(zé)任和投入上的明確約定。然后問(wèn)自己：“我能指望自己對(duì)這個(gè)承諾有始有終，100%的遵守嗎?我能做到嗎?”如果答案是肯定的，那么你就制定了一個(gè)協(xié)定。之后，當(dāng)你前進(jìn)的時(shí)候遇到內(nèi)部阻力或情緒障礙，你就能管理這些協(xié)定而不會(huì)困在情緒當(dāng)中。協(xié)定能維護(hù)動(dòng)力和行為。
3. Imagine Success
想象成功
Instead of constantly worrying and stressing, set aside time each day to envision a new life. Imagine clearly, and with all your internal senses, what it will be like to live your goal. Relish1 the physical sensations of the anticipation2 of your exciting dream. For example, the idea of losing weight is not very exciting; however, visualizing3 a new life of your choosing is exciting. Imagine yourself in your ideal life. Touch your body lovingly, breathe in the love for yourself, and feel the safety and comfort of living inside your body. Imagine your body as healthy and active. Whatever your goal, every day, make the choice to bring your dream front and center. Most of all, feel the excitement your dream generates. Allow that excitement to saturate4 your body to such an extent that you feel more alive and ready to take the next step of your journey. 不要不停地?fù)?dān)心、為壓力而焦慮，每天抽空來(lái)想象新的生活。調(diào)用全部感官清晰地想象目標(biāo)實(shí)現(xiàn)后的生活。享受期待激動(dòng)人心的夢(mèng)想時(shí)的振奮。例如，減肥這個(gè)主意并不非常令人興奮，不過(guò)，想象一下你選擇的新生活則是令人振奮的。想象一下理想生活中的自己。撫愛(ài)自己的身體，充滿愛(ài)意地呼吸，感受體內(nèi)的安全和舒適。想象你的身體健康、有活力。不論你的目標(biāo)是什么，每天選擇把你的夢(mèng)想“搬出來(lái)”。最重要的是感受夢(mèng)想產(chǎn)生的激動(dòng)感覺(jué)。讓這種激動(dòng)的感覺(jué)充滿全身，直至你感到自己活躍起來(lái)，準(zhǔn)備好為目標(biāo)邁出下一步為止。
4. Take Action Daily
每天行動(dòng)
Your goals need to move from the idea state into the physical state and the only way this can happen is when you take action. Action on a daily basis is necessary to make your dream come true. Your daily actions do not have to be big; they just have to be consistent1. Follow your heart and choose the steps that you know in advance are the right actions for the amount of energy you have right now. Then follow through. Motivation increases as you become actively2 dedicated3 to the process of making your dreams come true. 你的目標(biāo)需要從“想法”狀態(tài)改變至“現(xiàn)實(shí)”狀態(tài)。而實(shí)現(xiàn)的唯一途徑便是采取行動(dòng)。要讓夢(mèng)想實(shí)現(xiàn)，每天都得行動(dòng)。每天的行動(dòng)不必轟轟烈烈;但是一定要堅(jiān)持。跟著感覺(jué)走，選擇那些你知道的、當(dāng)前精力可以做到的行動(dòng)。然后貫徹始終。在你致力于把夢(mèng)想實(shí)現(xiàn)的過(guò)程中，你會(huì)越來(lái)越有動(dòng)力。
5. Repeated Success Leads to Increased Motivation!
不斷成功使動(dòng)力增加!
Helen Keller wrote, "Nothing can be done without hope and confidence." Every day, take a couple of minutes to list all your accomplishments1 for the day. Develop a tracking system for every effort and success, no matter how tiny. Each step toward your goal deserves recognition2 or some type of reward system. A checkmark on your calendar, congratulations from your loved ones, a hug from your partner, or money in your success jar all count. Document and celebrate often as you get in the habit of acknowledging3 what you have done right. Feeling the satisfaction of having achieved something has a snowball effect. With each success your confidence shoots up, you realize your limitless potential, and you gain more energy to take your next step. Repeated success in a particular activity motivates you to want to do that activity often. 海倫•凱勒曾寫(xiě)道：“沒(méi)有希望和自信，就會(huì)一事無(wú)成”。每天，用幾分鐘列出一天要做的事情。 記錄你的成功和努力--不論它們多么渺小。為實(shí)現(xiàn)目標(biāo)所取得的每一步成功都應(yīng)得到認(rèn)可和某種形式的獎(jiǎng)勵(lì)。在日歷上打一個(gè)勾，所愛(ài)的人的祝賀，伴侶的擁抱，還有金錢(qián)——都是認(rèn)可。常常記錄和慶祝讓你養(yǎng)成認(rèn)可自己的習(xí)慣。 成就所帶來(lái)的滿足感會(huì)帶來(lái)雪球效應(yīng)。每一次成功會(huì)讓你的自信增加，你意識(shí)到了自己無(wú)限的潛力，你也有了更多動(dòng)力進(jìn)行下一步。在某一活動(dòng)中不斷獲得成功會(huì)讓你經(jīng)常做那件事。
6. Practice Kindness
善待自己
Replace self-criticism with encouragement and motivating inspiration. You easily encourage everyone else in your life with praise and uplifting sentiments. Why not do the same for yourself? Imagine seeing a child looking forlorn because she cannot figure out the puzzle she is working on. You are not going to go over and verbally smack1 the frustration2 out of her, are you? Instead, you will probably talk compassionately4 to her, put an arm around her, see what is so upsetting, and inspire her with words that will keep her optimistic and inspired. Instead of punishing yourself when things do not work out right, begin cultivating compassion3 for yourself. You must feel deserving and worthy5 to sustain the motivation needed to achieve your desired outcome. 用鼓勵(lì)和激勵(lì)取代自我批評(píng)。在生活中，你會(huì)很容易地用贊美和激勵(lì)人心的感情去鼓勵(lì)別人。為何不為自己做同樣的事情?想象一下一個(gè)因不能解答謎題而難過(guò)的孩子。你不會(huì)走上前，給她打擊，讓她感到沮喪，對(duì)嗎?相反，你很可能會(huì)同情地和她交談，用手臂擁著她，看看是什么如此令人心煩，用語(yǔ)言激勵(lì)她，使她保持樂(lè)觀，受到鼓舞。因此，當(dāng)事情不順利時(shí)，不要懲罰自己，要培養(yǎng)對(duì)自己的同情心。為了實(shí)現(xiàn)你的期望結(jié)果，就必須認(rèn)同自己應(yīng)得、值得受到鼓舞。
7. Believe in Yourself
相信自己
Being motivated is all about knowing what you want and believing in your ability to achieve it. Belief is a feeling of certainty. It is like knowing the sun will rise tomorrow morning. You do not question whether the sun will rise, spend time worrying that it might not, or imagine the worst-case outcome. Believing in yourself requires that you focus energy and excitement on what you want. You form a loving partnership1 with your dream, even though the dream does not exist yet in your physical reality. You assume your desire will manifest, just as surely as the sun will rise again tomorrow. Believing in yourself requires spending time with what is important to you, and what feels good to you. 有動(dòng)力就是知道自己想要什么同時(shí)相信自己有能力獲得。信仰就是一種確定的感覺(jué)。就好像你知道明天太陽(yáng)會(huì)升起。你不會(huì)懷疑、不會(huì)花時(shí)間擔(dān)心太陽(yáng)會(huì)不會(huì)升起，也不會(huì)想象那最糟糕的結(jié)果。相信自己要求你把精力和興奮集中在想要的東西上。和你的夢(mèng)想建立一種鐘愛(ài)關(guān)系，即使在現(xiàn)實(shí)中這個(gè)夢(mèng)想還不存在。你要假定你的夢(mèng)想會(huì)實(shí)現(xiàn)，就好像太陽(yáng)明天會(huì)升起一樣。相信自己要求做到把時(shí)間花在對(duì)你重要的事情上，花在讓你感覺(jué)良好的事情上。
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